Warning: if you have a Restraining Order

If you have a Restraining Order, I don't want this to happen to you.  This has happened before. The judge says, "You're safe now. If he comes for you, call 911 & run to a safe place to wait." Well, the girl who did that was told she has no PHYSICAL PROOF that he approached her. She SHOULD have TAKEN A PHOTO, then dial 911!  Or taken VIDEO before or while on Speaker Phone with 911. If 911 hears both people in the background, that's proof. If a video or photo SHOWS your abuser is there, that's proof. Many cases don't have EMPIRICAL EVIDENCE. Domestic Violence victims are often scared, and not thinking like a prosecutor or lawyer (most of us victims are not lawyers & get more emotional than factual.) Guess what. If you want JUSTICE and to PROTECT OTHER WOMEN, try to help the Police and Prosecutor by giving them enough proof to achieve justice. They can try to do it based on our testimony, but it makes their job easier to have photos and videos and speaker phone audio tapes on 911 calls. Remember, you have the right to request your 911 call too. Hopefully you were very specific. Don't say "Help! Im at this address & scared." Say "[Insert name] is following me. He's violating his restraining order. He's here & my photo/video shows it. I'm emailing the photo before he breaks my phone. OK, the proof was sent to a witness." Get off the phone. Ask a passerby for their contact info & to be a witness. This helps prove the case. Be careful out there.